The Challenge
You've built a successful career. But your relationships haven't kept pace.
Maybe work has taken priority for so long that your partnership feels like an afterthought. Maybe conflict has become the norm — or silence has replaced connection. Maybe you're successful in every area except dating, where the same patterns keep repeating.You're not alone. High achievers often apply relentless drive to their careers while neglecting the relationships that matter most.
The good news: the same intentionality that built your career can transform your relationships.
Who This Is For
Tailored coaching for high-achieving individuals and couples who demand excellence in every arena of life.
- Couples: Navigating conflict, communication breaks, trust issues, or life transitions.
- Individuals Dating: Breaking unhealthy patterns, building confidence, and dating with intention.
- Dual-Career Couples: Balancing ambition with intimacy and partnership.
- Pre-Committed Partners: Considering engagement, marriage, or long-term commitment.
What I Help With
For Couples
Focus Areas:
- Improving communication and reducing conflict
- Rebuilding trust after breaches or disconnection
- Navigating dual-career demands and work-life integration
- Strengthening emotional and physical intimacy
- Aligning on shared goals, values, and vision
For Individuals Dating
Focus Areas:
- Identifying and breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
- Building confidence and self-worth in dating
- Clarifying what you want in a partner and relationship
- Developing communication skills for deeper connection
- Balancing career ambition with relationship goals
My Approach
I'm not a dating coach who read a book or attended a seminar. I'm a licensed clinical psychologist and Gottman-certified couples therapist (Level 2) with 15+ years of experience. I bring evidence-based methodology and clinical depth to every engagement — whether you're strengthening a marriage or building confidence to date again.
Gottman Method
The most researched, evidence-based framework for lasting relationships.
I also understand the unique pressures of high-achieving professionals. Long hours. High stakes. The challenge of finding someone who matches your ambition — or maintaining connection when both partners are driven. My approach combines:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Cognitive techniques to break unhelpful thought patterns and high-pressure cognitive distortions.
Real-world Understanding
Expertise working with tech leaders in Silicon Valley. I understand your world.
Certifications
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Level 2 Certified Practitioner
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapist
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
Complete Privacy
Relationship and dating challenges are deeply personal. As a licensed psychologist, I firmly hold therapist-level confidentiality — HIPAA-compliant. What we discuss stays between us.
Why Gottman
Built on 40+ years of longitudinal research with thousands of couples, the Gottman Method represents the gold standard in relationship science. It provides the depth and evidence required by high-achieving professionals who demand excellence in every arena.
Predictive Modeling
A researched-backed framework for relationship success that moves beyond guesswork into measurable data points.
Strategic Conflict
Concrete, practical tools designed for effective conflict management and resolution in fast-paced, high-pressure environments.
Intimacy Framework
A logical structure for (re)building trust and deep connection, prioritizing long-term intimacy as a critical life asset.
Evidence-Based Practice
Ditching anecdotal advice for clinical depth. Validated methodology applied to the complexities of dual-career longevity.
"You wouldn't trust your career to unproven methods. Why trust your relationships to one?"
One Coach. One Relationship.
Many coaching firms assign you to a contractor. You talk to a salesperson, then an intake coordinator, then finally meet "your coach"—someone you didn't choose.
That's not how I work.
When you reach out, you talk to me. When we meet for our consultation, it's me. When we work together, it's me—every session, every conversation, from start to finish.
No handoffs. No gatekeepers. No repeating your story to someone new.
Just a direct relationship, built on trust.
How It Works
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Consultation
Free 15-minute call to explore fit and goals.
Discovery
Deep assessment of relationship history, patterns, and aspirations.
Ongoing Coaching
Integration
Regular sessions tailored to your needs — couples or individual.
Tools, frameworks, and practices for lasting change.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is Gottman Method ?
The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Over four decades of research, they identified the specific behaviors that predict relationship success and failure—and developed interventions that actually work. Dr. Li is a Gottman Method Certified Therapist, which requires extensive training, clinical hours, and demonstrated proficiency in this approach.
Do you specialize in dual-career couples?
Yes. A significant portion of my couples practice involves dual-career couples in Silicon Valley—two high-achieving partners navigating the competing demands of ambitious careers and meaningful relationship. Dual-career couples need different support than couples where one partner has flexibility. My approach acknowledges reality: neither of you is going to work less. The question is how to build connection within constraint.
How often do couples need to meet?
Most couples in my practice meet weekly, especially at the beginning. Weekly sessions build momentum and allow us to work with issues while they're fresh. As progress occurs, many couples shift to biweekly, then monthly maintenance sessions.
Can couples coaching save a relationship?
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Honesty here serves you better than false promises. Couples therapy can be remarkably effective when both partners genuinely want the relationship to work and destructiveness hasn't completely replaced connection. In our first session, I'll offer an honest assessment of what I see and what's possible.
Individual vs. Couples Coaching?
In individual coaching, you are the client. In couples coaching, the relationship is the client. This means I don't take sides, I won't see you for individual sessions simultaneously, and progress is measured by the relationship's dynamic rather than individual satisfaction alone.
What happens in a typical session?
Sessions are 50 minutes. A typical session includes a check-in on recent incidents, working on a specific conflict or topic, skill building with new engagement methods, and integration for the week ahead. Early sessions focus on assessment of history and patterns; later sessions focus on building alternatives to stuck patterns.
Fit & Investment
Is This Right for You?
This work requires honesty, time, and investment.
I keep a small client roster so I can go deep, not wide. I don't take on every inquiry, and I encourage you to be selective too.
Pricing varies based on engagement type and scope. If we're a fit after our consultation, I'll share details and we'll decide together whether to move forward.
Let's Connect
Executive-grade partnership coaching for high-achievers who understand that lasting relational success requires direct intentionality.
All inquiry are confidential.